Solemniser woes

For the very same reason why I left my former church, I am facing a similar problem on for my solemniser - I have nothing against christianity, I love God and I acknowledge the fact that I sin everyday. What irks me most is when i meet christians who actually 'noticed the speck on people's eye and totally oblivious that they have a plank on their own'.

As i pretty much wanted a Christian wedding,well not necessary to be in a church, but at least it has to be prayed over by a man of God and an union honoured by God.

My dad's pastor expressed his concern about solemnising the wedding as we are already staying together.

And he has to asked me intimate details about how far we have progressed...what my parents felt about us living together and whether my dad has any idea as to how intimate we are ( WTFish??? Do you actually know how many men your wife sleeps with before you???) ,which added insult to what I am already feeling inside me.

What's the issue here? I don't get it.
We are going through a Christian Pre-Marital Counselling, we are very in love and very much want to be blessed and remembered by God, and we spent so much effort working on our issues.
As much as I am holding back any negativity I have towards the pastor aka the servant of God, I am still not too happy with what was conversed.

Pastor A: Let me speak to your dad first.
Me: Regarding?
Pastor A: *Long Pause* I need to see what your dad got to say.
Me: What exactly is your concern? Surely this has nothing to do with my dad. If anything you need to find out and want to talk about, it will be either me or Jack you should be talking to, not anyone else. I believe this is our marriage, not my dad's.

Pastor A: So let me put it this way, I have agreed to solemnise the wedding only because you have no pastor to turn to but me and I am only do it out of my personal favour to your dad.
Me: Put it in whatever way that you spiritually feel comfortable with, you know my intention. We came to you JUST because you are our family friend, beyond that any pastor will do. My stand is clear, I just want God to honour the wedding, nevermind how spiritual the pastor is.
Pastor A: ok let's talk tonight then when you guys come over to my place.



Seriously, I really dunno if this pastor is the kind of person I wanted to solemnise my wedding.