Our 1st Thanksgiving Day...

22 Nov 2007.

Thanks Giving Day falls on the 4th Thursday of November, and this year, it falls on the 22 Nov, which coincidentally is my parent's 33rd Wedding Anniversary (i have checked, my bro is 31 this yr, and i came in 6 yrs later...)


Like the tradition, i wanted to share a huge female turkey together, but all we can find are some frozen/roasted birds(they call it chicken) in the supermarket.


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On the same day, i got him a wedding present and presented it in the most romantic way.


(Pulling the car over)
Me: Have you received any present in the car, during peak hour, on the bus lane before?
He: No....what is it?
Me: (Took out the Lee Hwa paper bag from the back of my car) Here, my present for u, see if it fits, it is a ring.....
He: Why can't we wait till we get home?
Me: Why becoz junction 8 is just round the corner, we could change it for something else if you dont like.... (Ha, he dare!)



So the day ended up with us going to J8 for dinner, no turket, no pumkin pie.
But we are happy.


I certainly look forward to our next thanksgiving day.

Do I call this telepathy? If yes, where is that gucci bag i saw?

It was our usual routine, nothing extraordinary really popped up that day, just a normal lazy Sunday night in the shower.

We hugged, we smooched, we touched, we talked about our plans.

Then Jack hit a spot. By that i am not referring to the erogenous one.

I realised that Jack has the same ideas and dreams as me as we broached on some topics of our lives. It was so similar and it was scary. It is as though he can read my mind and can see the bubbles forming above my head.

Having the same thoughts/ideas/dreams and even the details of them are 100% cut and paste from my cpu.

It just reaffirms my belief that this is the man to keep, love and to have babies with.


I love my boy.

Jack in Korea~

Nothing to blog about...just 3 words.




I


Miss


You





The 'missing him' got so bad that i find myself not washing the dirty dishes,not folding and washing the clothes and not making our bed...........


I like the way the house is now.
It makes tidying easier( is there a need now?) & rampaging/searching a breeze. Gone are the days where we need to buy boxes to store stuff.... Picture this, you now have a sofa-cum-wardrobe-cum-shelf all roledl in one. Wala~ the world is a better place....


Organization & orderliness is for BMT, and i do not want to evoke memories of his army days,do i?

The house looks better in this state, at least it looks inhabited. All i need is to get Jack to agree with me on this.




Now where is the aircon remote control?..........ermmm

When it keeps coming back....

i tried to stop.

i really do.

but it keeps coming back and haunt me.

The bad memories that is best left out on this blog. or rather i do not want to be reminded of in future. the bitter taste of hauntings and the scent of betrayal still lingers.

"Hatred stirs up strife, But love covers all transgressions." - Proverbs 10:12
- the small voice within me reminded me what love is.

There is always a vindictive self in me wants to resurface and take charge of the situations.
Then there is this Grip called Memories. It will grip me in the most unkind way and roused me from sleeps, jolted me to past and with a sober mind and perfect visuals, i withness the awful scenes of the deeds he did. i swear it is as clear and real.

I broke down.

This must not go on.


Holding on to whatever little faith i have in me, i made a silent prayer.

When is this going to end?

I have no answer. I walked up to bed,plant a kiss on his forehead.

I am still battling a war with self-esteem and confidence. On my shoulders there are still my dreadful job cum dilemma and my emotional struggles, sometimes i am really tired of fighting, the flight of escapism is what seems lik3 a logical choice.

The flight of escapism = future hauntings

It is my choice to marry him. Now it is really up to me to build up my marriage. The ball is at my court, roles have changed.

The battle continues, i have but only, an amour of love over me.

Finally,our Venue!

Yipee~

The place is decided.

We have finally confirmed our place in The Raffles Town Club for our special day.

I lurve the high ceilings at the entrance. In fact, that was the reason why I have chosen this place.

Jack was slightly more rational than me. He decided on the place because he saw this.

But sadly, they dont allow us to hold our solemnisation at the poolside. So we settled for the lounge function room on the mezzanine floor, which is equally awesome and much more comfortable.

Seriously, everything would have been perfect if not for the sales person, who really did a bad job in trying to 'humour' us, we see through it right away but still go ahead because of 2 reasons.....

The ceiling & the pool.

She never call as promised; she fixed the appointments in such a way that we can only have 45mins with her; her way of saying no is "NO" - i hate it. you should at least say you have tried/will check; overall we can't really negotiate for the things that most people would have gotten it elsewhere (ie Free parking for my guests.waiver of cockage charges,wedding favours); her favourite line is "for that, we need to charge extra..."

Ok, let's give her some credits for saying YES to me for certain things.

• WE managed to get her to give us a free parking lot for our bridal car at the side entrance. Bear in mind it was a straight NO at first, she took a week to get back to me on this. Hooray.
• WE managed to get her to give us cockage waiver for 10 bottles of wine for my 50 guests. Her reason for saying NO - NO ones drink during hi-tea.

Jack was the cooler between the 2 of us, I was already losing my patience with her, if not for the ceiling & the pool....

Super inflexible & calculative!

Nevertheless, I am still looking forward to the wedding and I know it is going to be a beautiful one :)

Sneak Preview - Dress No 2

This is not a lampshade you are looking at.

It how one of my dresses is going to look like on my ROM.

ok fine. I am a trader, not an artist ok.

Solemniser woes

For the very same reason why I left my former church, I am facing a similar problem on for my solemniser - I have nothing against christianity, I love God and I acknowledge the fact that I sin everyday. What irks me most is when i meet christians who actually 'noticed the speck on people's eye and totally oblivious that they have a plank on their own'.

As i pretty much wanted a Christian wedding,well not necessary to be in a church, but at least it has to be prayed over by a man of God and an union honoured by God.

My dad's pastor expressed his concern about solemnising the wedding as we are already staying together.

And he has to asked me intimate details about how far we have progressed...what my parents felt about us living together and whether my dad has any idea as to how intimate we are ( WTFish??? Do you actually know how many men your wife sleeps with before you???) ,which added insult to what I am already feeling inside me.

What's the issue here? I don't get it.
We are going through a Christian Pre-Marital Counselling, we are very in love and very much want to be blessed and remembered by God, and we spent so much effort working on our issues.
As much as I am holding back any negativity I have towards the pastor aka the servant of God, I am still not too happy with what was conversed.

Pastor A: Let me speak to your dad first.
Me: Regarding?
Pastor A: *Long Pause* I need to see what your dad got to say.
Me: What exactly is your concern? Surely this has nothing to do with my dad. If anything you need to find out and want to talk about, it will be either me or Jack you should be talking to, not anyone else. I believe this is our marriage, not my dad's.

Pastor A: So let me put it this way, I have agreed to solemnise the wedding only because you have no pastor to turn to but me and I am only do it out of my personal favour to your dad.
Me: Put it in whatever way that you spiritually feel comfortable with, you know my intention. We came to you JUST because you are our family friend, beyond that any pastor will do. My stand is clear, I just want God to honour the wedding, nevermind how spiritual the pastor is.
Pastor A: ok let's talk tonight then when you guys come over to my place.



Seriously, I really dunno if this pastor is the kind of person I wanted to solemnise my wedding.

Random Ranting - My Pet Peeve

Some kind of home owner!

Both of us really like the houses along Jalan Bahagia area and we managed to find someone who is selling.

The last we met, they wanted around 50k cash,negotiable.

On Mon when we went down for a discussion , they asked for 60k! When we have ALREADY earnestly told the mistress that we can only afford 40k cash payment.

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That nite, still disappointed, I decided that I do not need a house, I need a home.
And Jack has already given me that.

The Prep - Our Bridal Shop

Blame it on impulses.



I prefer to call that sense of urgency and pride myself being the number 1 enthusiast in everything I do.



Her:"What if they stopped the promotions if we come back again???"

I will never allow my worst fear to happen. Not on my wedding prep.



For all those who know me, my new job allows me to keep abreast of all things so long they are seachable by the internet. My ass is practically stuck to the office chair, sans the occasion coffee breaks & nature call beckoning.


www.singaporebrides.com
The Aisle Bridal Boutique is giving 800 buckaroos discount for every wedding wedding package purchase till Oct 7, how could i missed that?



Nevermind that I don't know when my AD is going to be.

Nevermind that he haven't proposed.

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This is a relatively new bridal shop.
All their gowns are brand new & there are some that really caught my eye.
We decided on a $2688 package which basically seems to include everything & they even throw in a free ROM package for us.

Now, we have 2 ROM packages.

Earlier on, we signed on a $488 ROM package with Bridal Elegance next door. Yes, that's right. There are only 2 bridal shops in Winsor Hotel & I am both their bride.

The gown that I chose from The Aisle is a very elaborate one. On the 1st look on the hanger,you probably laugh at it. In fact, Jack was pretty amused when I wanted to try it on. A quick check with Agnes (sales person), I am the 1st to wear that gown for a wedding.

I decided to pick that one. For those who are coming for our solemisation, you are in for a visual treat.

The other outfit I chose from Bridal Elegance is a surprise for my baby. Even he is clueless on what I am going to wear. So there~ surprise,Surprise!

Picture of Bliss

This is us. Our most recent pic.



Her Story:













"He is working in a shipping company whom my then-company had some business dealings with.

It started with a harmless chat online.

He was flirting. I am not new to games.
Then and there, I decided this guy is not my type.

Strangely I also find his picture quite odd. The display pic was him, pointing to a tree behind him. I guess that was one of the 1st few questions I asked him.

The same week, we arranged to meet up to party with the rest of his colleagues. It was a friday nite. To be exact, I think it was 5th Jan 2007.

He was the only one who turned up.

The rest is history."




His Story:














"She works in a bunker supply company when i met her... It started with a casual meet up in a local bar. Was suppose to turn up with my colleague, but last minute he decided not to join. I was badly in need of a drink then, so i decided to go ahead to meet her alone.


Surprisingly she turned up with her cousin and friends... as i was expecting some colleagues of hers to join. Nevertheless the evening went on well and we clicked quite well by the end of the night.


We went on a few more dates and the rest is just the beginning.


People always say you can't meet the right person in a bar or club, but i never believe that."

The Prelude

Our Love Story 2007 unfolds the tales of our lives interwined together.

It is a true account of Hope, of Faith, of Love , of our struggles and more importantly, our walk to the Holy Matrimony, as Mr & Mrs :)

I am not sure if I have time to keep updates on every single details (I will try though!).

But surely, we hope that this blog serves as a reminder of our love for each other.

To my Fiance:

" Baby, it has not been easy for me. But everyday, I am reminded of your love for me through my daily prayers and I know the work that God has begin in us, will finish it till the end...."

The account here is truly personal and we invite you to share our joy and witness our pursuit to happyness.